Subject: Reel Big Fish references & a Question

Yasi-
I’ve been reading the “back issues” of the blog and one entry after you tore someone a new asshole for talking about selling out, the title was “We Hate it When Our Friends Become Successful” I just wanted to commend you for your knowledge of good ska music!

My question is somewhat odd but intriguing to me. In you tween, teen, and current years, do you feel that the social interactions of yourself and your friends changed a lot? Do you think you lost a lot of friends from high school until now?

Thanks for reading, keep up the awesome blog and cynical awesomeness!

Dan
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Dan,

Oh fuck, dude, I don’t listen to ska music. (Are there still people who do? Maybe Bobby). That’s a line from a Morrissey song. So please take your commendation back.

That aside, your question is a pretty good one. Of course my interactions are different from when I was (as you so charmingly put it) a “tween.” Let me break it down for you. When I was in middle school, I was so beyond ugly and angsty that my interactions were awkward at best but more often than not flat out painful. Somewhere between then and college I stopped hating myself and started hating everyone else. In college I was fucked up most of the time so I don’t really remember what my interactions were like. (I’m sure they were charming). And now, I don’t have many interactions because I’m an ornery old lady.

To answer your question more explicitly, I wouldn’t say I have lost many friends since then. More like I’ve misplaced them. People grow up and change, and some people change a lot. Worse, some people don’t change at all. And it takes time to know who you are. Fuck even now I don’t totally know, but I know a little better than when I was 18 or so. You do your best to maintain relationships but sometimes it just doesn’t work out like that. Then there are friends that you can not talk to for a year, but when you do, it’s like not a day has passed. And there are friends that even when your interests and lifestyles sort of diverge, you can find yourself sitting in a bathtub together (in Halloween costumes, perv) talking about life for a few hours. My take on friendship is that it should (for the most part) be a relatively natural thing. If you have to push it too hard it’s probably not worth it.

Again that might have been tangential but I’m too tired from covering myself in blood last night to delve into this further.

xx,
Yasi

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